Will God Bring Peace To My Family?

Few problems burden our sanity like family problems. When issues divide us from the people we’re closest to it hurts, and it can hurt really bad. And when we hurt like that we look for answers where we can find them, and more often than not the average person is more interested in drawing close to God when troublesome times draw near than at any other time – and this is especially true when family ties feel like they’re going to be cut. And a civil-war brewing under our roof can make a person want to know if God will bring peace to their family.

While I can completely and personally understand the want, most people ask the wrong question when it comes to God and family and peace. It’s not a matter of God’s will; it’s a matter of our own. The question that we should ask is, “Can God bring peace to my family?” Because the answer to that question is, yes! God wants families to live in peace with one another. But will God bring peace to every family? Sadly, the answer to that is, no. And he won’t because every family member won’t want the peace that he offers.

When family problems arise I encourage everyone to remember that just because you draw near to God doesn’t mean that others will follow with you, and Jesus said this much himself (Luke 12:51-53). So if we want the peace of God in our family we need to start by having it within our self – because we might be the only ones who know anything about it. EA

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)


  1. I recently had the revelation that no matter how hard we try, how much we prayer, how many books/podcasts we suggest, how much advice we offer – there will be some family members who will never choose the peace that God offers. They will forever live without joy and will always allow the voice of condemnation to keep them from the promises of God. It’s so very sad but we have know when it’s time to “pull the plug” and surrender them over to God and stop trying to be their Holy Spirit (preaching to myself here, lol)

    1. Encouragement and warnings are important without a doubt, but as you said, at the end of the day the decision still relies upon the heart of the person who hears the word of God and whether or not they’ll allow God to work on the soil or stay stubborn (Luke 8:4-14). It’s like the old saying, “Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still.”

      Thanks for commenting.

  2. I really appreciate your last line in particular, “So if we want the peace of God in our family we need to start by having it within our self.” To often we demand things of other people without first taking the time and expending the energy to do it ourselves. We ask others to surrender without first surrendering ourselves to the Holy Spirit.

    1. Thanks for commenting, ROW.

      As far as that last line in particular goes, I definitely had the speck and the log principle in mind there (Matthew 7:3-5). If it’s good for the gander then the goose needs it too.

      Unfortunately it is a tough topic with many people due to their individual situation, but my goal was to help people remember that just because there isn’t peace (spiritually speaking) in their family that doesn’t mean that they’ve particularly done something wrong themselves.

  3. This is so true. And it’s so sad how one person can effect the peace in the lives of everyone around them. The only thing to do sometimes is to just let it go and pray for peace in one’s own life.

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